How quickly can one get a legal separation with restraining order against ones wife?

I'm scared of my wife as she is violent We've been married 14 years and she ridicules me, bosses over me, embarassed me in public by always screaming, shouting and controlling me. Now this is almost makinge clinically depresses. Even in my consultation session with my psychiatrist she won't let me go alone. My psychiatrist has asked me to seek therapy - with counsellors. She won't allow it as counsellors want to talk to me alone. I've come to a realisation in life that this marriage is be